Where Science and Enlightenment Collide

Buddha on Love

Yin_Yang_Heart_by_emmysdaddyWith Valentine’s Day fast approaching here in the states, you cannot help sometimes but feel the twinge of the chronically single life style.  With everything geared towards romance and couples, the days can pull at the ole heart strings.  Admittedly a few times myself I have wondered if my standards were too high, if I should have settled when a relationship did not work out.  Other times I have asked myself what I could I have done better when someone had left me and the shoe was on the other foot.

Lately while reading the Dhammapada a running theme kept popping up, and if you are like me you may find these words, if not inspiring, at least comforting when those doubts start to creep into your conscious trains of thought.

If a traveler does not meet with one who is his better, or his equal. let him firmly keep to his solitary journey; this is no companionship with a fool.  DP 61

If a man finds no prudent companion who walks with him, is wise, and lives soberly, let him walk alone like a king who has left his conquered country behind, -Like an elephant.  DP 329

It is better to live alone, there is no companionship with a fool; let a man walk alone, let him commit no sin, with few wishes, like an elephant in the forest.  DP 330

The fields are damaged by weeds, mankind is damaged by lust: therefore a gift bestowed on those who are free from lust brings great reward. DP 359

If we want to be free of suffering in our relationships, we must find our equals and those who inspire us to better ourselves, we must not become trapped by our lusts, for when we do we become like spiders who have become trapped in our own webs.

But how is this fair we might ask?  So many happy couples why not me? Honestly who knows, we should strive to continue on living in the now, continue our good works until our seeds ripen to bare fruits.

Even a good man sees evil days (finds suffering in this world), as long as his good deed has not ripened; but when the good deed has ripened, then the good man sees happy days.  DP 120

Let no man think lightly of good, saying in his heart, it will not come nigh unto me.  Even by falling of water-drops a water pot is filled; the wise man becomes fill of good, even if he gathers it little by little.

So to my fellow romantically challenged brothers and sisters, I wish you press on, happily diligently, doing good works, for sometimes the sweetest fruits come from the trees that take longest to bloom.



4 responses

  1. Thanks for posting. Two FYIs: You have a typo here: “…free from list brings great reward” that you will want to correct.

    Second, please consider changing ALL the “man” and male-centric, NOT inclusive language, dated translations by putting square brackets around the new language and then reposting, e.g.,
    “If a traveler does not meet with one who is [one’s] better, or [one’s] equal. let [the traveler] firmly keep to [a] solitary journey; this is no companionship with a fool.”

    ” Let no [one] think lightly of good, saying in [one’s] heart, it will not come nigh unto me. Even by falling of water-drops a water pot is filled; the wise [person] becomes fill of good, even if [s/he] gathers it little by little.”

    LANGUAGE matters.


    February 13, 2015 at 6:40 am

    • Thanks for the typo help! The portions you are talking about that have masculine possessives are translated that way from the Dhammapada and are direct quotes. Where as I am a feminist and agree that masculine overtones in old text is troublesome and sometimes off-putting, I also want to try not to upset the purists who will be offended at modifying what the script has written.

      February 13, 2015 at 4:43 pm

  2. Beth

    I came across this through a crazy string of internet clicks and even though Valentine’s day has past, it is something I needed to hear today. Thank you!

    April 27, 2015 at 12:35 pm

    • Thank you kindly, I only wish I had more to share as of late, but life, kids, and social justice obligations keep me occupied or distracted (depending on the subject). I hope to have more content soon!

      April 27, 2015 at 2:44 pm

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