Where Science and Enlightenment Collide

Agree to Disagree

725ccebfd7d620c4cd6f50221deeb3dbIt is okay to have different opinions and not to agree on certain subject matters, it is not however prudent or beneficial to anyone involved to put someone down for their beliefs.

I recently had to let go of a friend today because she refused to step down off her soap box built on belittlement and agree to disagree.  In our modern society of likes and followers, it is easy for us to become over inflated with a sense of self worth, but we must always find ways to embrace a personal humility; to realize we are not the expert at everything, to slay our inner Sheldon Coopers as it were.
It is like the old quote “Apologizing doesn’t always mean you are wrong, it just means that you value your relationships more than your ego.”  the same can be said for disagreements, sometimes it is best to find value over the friendship rather than defending our own egos.



3 responses

  1. I’m sorry about you and your friend, but I do question whether we are meant to “agree to disagree” about absolutely everything. Sometimes, I find, some people are plain wrong. Dangerously, meanly, unnecessarily and inadequately thoughtless and incorrect in their assumptions, information, conclusions, choices. I cannot stand by and allow their cruel, mean-spirited, narrow-minded or otherwise stereotypical commentary to go unchallenged. Maybe that means I’m “on a soapbox,” but I’d rather be there than silent when someone is being awful.

    Best to you,


    August 21, 2015 at 2:17 pm

    • I agree that some issues do need voicing, after all we should not become apathetic to violence. But we also must remember that some issues are open to interpretation, or perspective if you will. We are all individuals that are interconnected yes, but individuals all the same. We must remember to ask ourselves “am I pressing this issue to educate, or am I pressing this issue because I know I am right and that is all that matters to me” Instant responses and communications, limiting replies to 144 characters, has practically eliminated our tact and politeness. Anonymity has become our bread and butter and we have become quick to use to to insult others who do not agree with our views.

      Remember as the Dalai Lama said some realities are codependent arising, they are reliant on outside observations and that each observation will vary from person to person. The result is that some judgments, good, bad, can be interpreted as illusions because they rely on bias and personal perspectives.

      August 21, 2015 at 3:34 pm

  2. Beth

    I agree. I have a difficult time sharing space with very argumentative people. I don’t mind a respectful debate but someone who argues just so he/she can prove themselves right is so emotionally draining!

    August 24, 2015 at 7:17 am

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